Of all men the drunkard is the foulest. The thief when he is not stealing is like another. The extortioner does not practice in the home. The murderer when he is at home can wash his hands. But the drunkard stinks and vomits in this own bed and dissolves his organs in alcohol.”― Ernest Hemingway, For Whom the Bell Tolls
Resentment is an extremely bitter diet, and eventually poisonous. I have no desire to make my own toxins.
1. We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction; that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
12 Ways to Tell the Difference Between Your Sponsor and Your Therapist:1. Your sponsor isn’t all that interested in the “reasons” you drank. 2. Your therapist thinks your root problem is your lack of self-esteem and your negative self-image. Your sponsor thinks your problem is yourself. 3. Your therapist wants to pamper your inner child. Your sponsor thinks it should be spanked. 4. Your sponsor thinks your inventory should be about you, not your parents. 5. Speaking of your parents, your sponsor tells you not to confront them, but to make amends to them. 6. The only time your sponsor uses the word “closure” is before the word “mouth.” 7. Your sponsor thinks “boundaries” are things you need to take down, not build up. 8. Your therapist wants you to love yourself first; your sponsor wants you to love others first. 9. Your therapist prescribes care-taking medication. Your sponsor prescribes prayer making and meditation. 10. Your sponsor thinks “anger management skills” are numbered 1 through 12. 11. Now that you haven’t had a drink in 6 months, your therapist thinks you should make a list of all your goals and objectives for the next 5 years, starting with finishing up that college degree. Your sponsor thinks you should start today by cleaning coffee pots and help to carry a heavy box of literature to the jail. 12. Your sponsor will not lose his/her license if he/she talks about God.
Source: Sponser vs Therapist