“We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God as we understood him.” The Third Step requires a surrendered attitude of spiritual growth if we want to keep the good things coming. Our will is a simple way of stating what we want. Our wants direct our lives and if they are not in alignment with what we need, we have a contradiction to overcome.
We found that all we needed to do was to try. When we gave our best effort to the Program, it worked for us as it has worked for countless others. The Third Step does not say, “We turned our will and our lives over to the care of God”. It says, “We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him”. We made the decision; it was not made for us by the drugs, our families, a probation officer, judge, therapist or doctor. We made it. For the first time since that first high, we have made a decision for ourselves.
– Narcotics Anonymous Basic Text, Chapter 4/Step 3
Jim Mclean said once at Bondi Pavilion that the core of step 3 was to do with the WANTINGS. That the addict was dominated by WANTING something, someone or somewhere so badly that they would go after it at almost any cost. He taught us to recognise the WANTINGS.
They are in the voice that shouts ” I WANT TO ……. “
They are in the sense of urgency that tells us to act NOW. That tries to prevent us from speaking to anyone who might get in the way of the thing we want.
There is a deep pause in Step 3 where we learn to wait till the Wanting subsides.