NA Step 8
“We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.”
To this point, the steps have focused mostly on repairing ourselves and our relationship with a God of our understanding. Beginning with the Eighth Step, we bring other people into the healing process—people we harmed in our addiction, people we harmed in our recovery, people we meant to harm, people we hurt by accident, people who are no longer in our lives, and people we expect to be close to for the rest of our lives.
The Eighth Step is about identifying the damage we caused. It doesn’t matter whether we caused it because we were overtaken by rage, carelessness, or because we were afraid. It doesn’t matter whether our actions were based in selfishness, arrogance, dishonesty, or any other defect. It doesn’t even matter that we didn’t intend to cause someone harm. All the damage we caused is material for the Eighth Step.
We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a drastic self- appraisal. Now we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past. We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we haven’t the will to do this, we ask until it comes. Remember it was agreed at the beginning we would go to any lengths for victory over alcohol.
-A.A. Big Book p.76