Jim Mclean said once at Bondi Pavilion that the core of step 3 was to do with the WANTINGS. That the addict was dominated by WANTING something, someone or somewhere so badly that they would go after it at almost any cost. He taught us to recognise the WANTINGS.
They are in the voice that shouts ” I WANT TO ……. “
They are in the sense of urgency that tells us to act NOW. That tries to prevent us from speaking to anyone who might get in the way of the thing we want.
There is a deep pause in Step 3 where we learn to wait till the Wanting subsides.